My guest today is Arthur Brooks, a Harvard professor and behavioral scientist who has reshaped our understanding of human happiness. Now streaming on all platforms including YouTube. Episode 891.

never wastes your suffering. I ask my students in my happiness class to to keep a failure and disappointment list and each time something bad happens that feels like a loss or it feels like a disappointment or feels like a failure you write it down and leave two lines blank and on the first line you write down it's like that thing really bothered me and then a month later you come back to the first line that you left blank under it and write down what did you learn and then three months later you come back to the second line and write down a good thing that happened because of that loss and you're you're filling in the notebook and by the time you're going to a new thing that's really bugging you really bothering you you start to look forward to it because you're going to be looking back at the at the knowledge and growth from past negative experiences and the and and the benefit that actually has come from those negative experiences well never never never waste sacrifice never wastes your suffering