Replying to @SusiLi ⚘

I'm gonna teach you something about worrying that is gonna change your life. So for many of us, we spend a pretty big portion of our lives worrying about something in the future, something that hasn't happened yet. And what we do is we basically think about, over and over, something going wrong, something not working out. I heard a great quote once that worrying is like praying for something you don't want, right? We're using all of our mental energy, all of our time, thinking about the thing that we don't actually want. And this is a huge waste of time. So we think that what it's doing is setting ourselves up so that we're not super disappointed if it doesn't work out. We think about it not working out, not working out, not working out, so then when it happens, it's like, oh, it's not so bad, it didn't work out. But this isn't actually the case. When the thing doesn't work out, we're still really freaking upset. So basically what worrying does is it takes the time from now until the thing occurs and it ruins it. We are upset, we are worried, we are anxious, we are stressed. From now until the thing ruins this time. And then if said thing happens and goes wrong the way that we thought it might, we are then upset then and after. So what we can do instead is spend the time from now until thing happens, thinking about it going right. What if it all works out? What if it's better than I could ever imagine? What is my absolute ideal outcome? And start thinking about that. Because then the time from now until thing occurs is great. It's blissful, it's amazing. We're psyched, we're happy, we're calm. And then if the thing does happen, we freaking deal with it then. You know, like we're stronger than we think. We can recover from bad things happening. We can deal with it when it happens. And basically thinking about everything going right is actually just putting a lot of trust in ourselves that basically says like, you know what? I'm gonna think about the best case scenario. And if and when something goes wrong, I trust that I can handle it. And this is not only one of the greatest forms of self-trust, but it's also gonna revolutionize the way that you feel day to day. Because the truth is that we're spending so much of our time worrying that we're actually missing out on the present where nothing bad has happened yet. Like the thing we're worrying about has not occurred. And so let's not let it ruin our time now. Let's just put deep trust in ourselves that if and when something bad happens in the future that we can handle it.