De-shaming = de-personalizing challenges and accessing more safety #nervoussystem #healingjourney

I have come to realize that so much of nervous system regulation from the emotional, somatic, and spiritual perspective is depersonalizing your entire life and let me explain. This is what a lot of people in the spiritual realm will talk about as detachment, which I don't really think is actually what's going on. When you are chronically dysregulated and especially if you have internalized chronic shame, which most people do these days, your nervous system learns to over personalize pretty much every challenge in your life. So what ends up happening is anytime you face a challenge, something doesn't go the way that you want it to, or people are treating you the same way that you've always been treated your entire life that you don't like, what happens is the story and the narrative and the nervous system conditioning in your body says this is because I am me. Because I'm me. If somebody else was in the exact same position as me they would not be treated this way. This makes us extremely sensitive. It is completely over personalized. It rejects the reality that life is hard because life is hard.