Viral trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher talking about how you can deal with rude people during my conversation with him on The Diary Of A CEO 😨 #podcast #lawyer #law #trial #tips #advice #knowledge #howto #rude #lawtok #diaryofaceo #interview #clips #stpatricksday #paddysday #adolescence

One of the most effective things you can do is just kill someone with kindness. The secret to dealing with someone you don't like, you treat them like they do like you and that you do like them. It's hard though, isn't it? Because your body responds. It is hard. Your body starts to give it away. Your body does. Let's put some parameters around it. One, you want to limit that amount of contact. If you're around them the whole day, a whole lot harder. If you can be in front of them for two, three minutes, easy. Second of all is be mindful of who's around you because people are watching. If you argue with a fool, onlookers don't know the difference. So if you all of a sudden act rude to someone and they deserved it because of what they did two weeks ago, somebody in the room, they're not gonna blame that other person. They're gonna put it on you. So don't give someone a reason to affect your integrity. So when you just act like they do, treat them like they like you, your life will go better because it'll make you feel better. One, it'll make you feel like the better person. Two, let's say that other person is ambivalent on you. If you show that you don't like them, all you're doing is just confirming to them, this person hates me and you know what? I don't like them either. It's just reinforcing that feeling. Now they're sure to not like you. But when you don't give them an enemy, there's nothing they can do. That's what happens in a lot of conversations, arguments. People are looking for an enemy. They're wanting someone to justify that behavior. And when you don't give it to them, it's very frustrating. I mean, in trial litigation, one of the most effective things you can do is just kill someone with kindness. Whenever you're not ugly or rude, you don't give them somebody to be the villain because that's what they want. That's how they wanna justify their bad behavior of how they're treating you. And when you just act like you do like them, you limit the amount of time or you're very objective and very neutral of like, hey, I'm here to talk with you about this and then I'll be on my way. Like as long as you can be very direct and you're not giving those snide comments. If somebody asks what time it is and you go, I mean, you would know if you had a watch. Like that's what you want to do. And just instead of giving them the time, go about your day. Yeah, don't give somebody an excuse to lower your integrity.