If you're missing one of these 3️⃣ things in a friendship, it will start to fade. Thank you @Tinx for having me on @itsmetinx 💚 You can listen to this full episode wherever you stream your favorite podcasts, 🎧 "Office Hours with Mel Robbins."

There are three pillars in friendship that nobody taught you. And the pillars are proximity, timing, and energy. And if any one of these three pillars are missing, the friendship starts to fade. Proximity. Proximity matters. They've actually researched friendship. It takes you 78 hours to create a casual friendship. Wow. It takes you over 200 hours with somebody to create a close friendship. Those conditions for proximity were present when you were little. Right, because you're at school with them all the time. When you're in college, you live with people. Right. That's why all of a sudden in your 20s, it's really hard to find good friends because the proximity is missing because you need proximity to be next to somebody to actually spend enough time to have the chance to be a good friend. And so that's number one. And here's the second pillar, timing. Mm-hmm. From the age of 20 to 60, you spend more time with people at work than you will with your friends and family combined. Wow, my gosh. So why aren't you best friends with everybody at work? It's because you're at different times in your life. Wow. So you can be like super close, and you and I are clearly crazy aligned, and we could even work together every day, but we probably wouldn't spend weekends together because we're in different times of our life. Right, because we're in different stages of our life. And so while we're good friends, we're not like super, super tight, and we may be there for each other, which we will be to support each other in business, but it's not that like gelled friendship. You see what I'm saying? Right, 100%. Because the timing is off. And the third thing is energy. And there's just something about energy. It's on or it's off. So true. And when the energy is off, it's typically because somebody's dealing with something or they're just a little insecure. Sure. You don't have to be against these people. Just let them. Just let them.