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My therapist taught me this analogy that I think about every single day. If we are living in a house that has no food, there's no food in the kitchen, no food in like the pantry, the fridge, the cupboards are completely empty. And we live there and a man comes to the door, or whoever you are romantically interested in, and has a really fresh, hot, delicious box of pizza. And he's like, hey, I have this pizza for you, do you want it? And you're starving and you're like, yes, thank you so much, I'm so hungry, I need the pizza. And he's like, okay, well, the catch is I get to come in as well with the pizza. And you're like, okay, I'm literally starving, like, I'll take whatever, just get in here, like, I need to eat that pizza. Versus, if you have a fully stocked kitchen, fridges full, pantries full, cupboards are full, you have so much food in your house. And if somebody comes to the door with a pizza and they're like, hey, do you want this pizza? And you're like, yeah, thanks, like, that smells delicious. And they're like, okay, well, I get to come in too. And then you're like, okay, actually, I'm not interested, like, I have food inside, I don't need the pizza that bad, so no thank you. And then you don't invite them in. The whole point of this analogy is, in dating, when you have basically empty reserves of, like, self-love, confidence, self-worth, you are starving and desperate, and so you will take anybody that comes to your door with pizza. Anybody that's coming to your door to offer you what you don't already have, whether it's, like, acceptance, love, self-worth, whatever, you're like, yeah, whatever, I'll take whatever other garbage you have because that pizza, I need it so bad or I'm gonna die. Versus, when you have worked on yourself, done all the healing work, whatever you need to do to, like, fill up your coffers, if you will, and, like, your pantry's full, your fridge is full, then when somebody comes to the door and you're like, yeah, that pizza smells really good, but all the other garbage, like, it's just not worth it, like, I'm actually good, I'm not gonna starve to death without you, so you are better equipped to, like, reject garbage, basically. And so I thought I'd share because it is a bummer that my therapy sessions are not nationally televised for everyone to learn.