#duet with @David Sutcliffe #therapy - It’s ok to get hurt… you can handle it. #TherapistReacts #SelfCare #SelfSabotage

Why do you self sabotage you self sabotage because you made a decision a long time ago to never be vulnerable again it was an unconscious decision a decision you probably don't remember making in reaction to something that happened is a child that was overwhelmingly painful. So painful you resolve to never feel it again by refusing to do anything that might bring about that pain so you vowed to. Never again ask for what you need. Never open your heart never trust never be here all the way never show the truth of who you really are it was the perfect way to protect yourself and regain some control at a time when you felt powerless. The trouble is that decision that defense is still running your life with vigilance so when you reach for love for growth for expansion. That part of you wakes up thinking you're in danger and puts a stop to it through procrastination addiction isolation avoidance perfectionism. But it's really just fear fear of being hurt again. The realization is the understanding that even though the child could not feel that pain you as an adult can and you must if you want to live love and be free.