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I want to let you guys in on a little secret. This is the most underrated life skill in the entire world. And this is how you heal any attachment style, any anxiety, literally anything, absolutely anything. When you can learn how to sit with your uncomfortable emotions and self-regulate, you literally can handle anything in this world. And I know that sounds so dramatic, but let me explain. This is a really out there concept. The root of every single anxiety and fear in this entire world is based on the fact that you are scared of the emotional experience that comes with the thing. You're not scared of public speaking. You're scared of feeling embarrassed. You're scared of feeling shame. You're scared of feeling judged. You're not scared of breaking up with somebody or somebody breaking up with you. You are scared of feeling the heartbreak and the heartache that comes with it. This is going to sound morbid, but you're not even scared of your loved ones dying. You are scared of the emotional experience that comes with losing somebody that you love. And I'm not saying if you can learn to emotionally regulate and sit in uncomfortable emotions that those things will never affect you ever again. But what I mean is you will build a trust and resilience and confidence within yourself that nobody can ever take from you because you will have what most people don't have and that is a full trust and understanding and belief that you can handle anything and you can take care of yourself no matter what shows up. You don't need anybody else to do it for you. I'm bringing it back to relationships. This is where these attachment issues come from. We don't know how to sit with the discomfort of someone not texting us back. We don't know how to sit with the discomfort of somebody wanting to have an emotional conversation. We don't know how to sit with the discomfort of someone rejecting us or somebody critiquing us or some whatever it is. We don't know how to sit with that shit. So we throw it on to the person that we're with to make me feel better fix this. I don't want to feel my feelings anymore. So you have to take away my emotional experience right now and that's just not how it works. That is why you actually end up feeling insecure in your relationships because it's almost like you have completely taken your power and put it outside of your body. Like it is impossible to feel safe when you do that. And if you want to become more secure and more confident in your relationships and life in general, you have to cultivate courage and you don't just find courage on accident. You create it. You do things that are courageous. So you do hard things and the hardest thing you can do is sit through your uncomfortable feelings and it doesn't mean drowning them right there. It's it's accept them. Let them in identify them and then don't act impulsively instead of acting on them you regulate and you sit with the discomfort that just comes with life sometimes and the way to apply this practically in life every single day is to start doing hard things. Like I said before you need courage. You're missing courage and courage doesn't just find you you create courage by doing courageous things. So start doing courageous things that's not always like these insane things like sometimes it is taking yourself on a date by yourself. Sometimes it's waking up really early to go to the gym because that's hard right that requires grit that requires self-discipline. So maybe it's that maybe it's going to the gym for the first time by yourself. Maybe it's going to do something. I don't know going on a trip by yourself. Like you need to put yourself in situations that you don't necessarily want to be in but on the other side of that is growth and on the other side of that growth is courage and with courage comes confidence and security in yourself.