Theo Von And Dr. Gabor Maté #theovon #theovonclips #gabormate #psychology #fyp #theovonpodcast #health

I'd love to talk a little bit about shame, man, because that was a huge part of my life. Well, tell me about it. I just felt ashamed of myself. I think I felt ashamed of who I was at like the first molecule almost. No infant is born ashamed of themselves. They're totally there. Yeah, that's true. How infants get shamed is when they're not seen. What happens then? They can make two assumptions. One is these adults are stupid. They're incapable. They're incompetent. I'm all alone in the world. Or the child can believe there's something wrong with me, and maybe if I can work hard enough, I can fix it. Now, which belief do you think is more acceptable for the child? The second one. The second one. Deep sense there's something wrong with us. We just have to work hard enough or look good enough or something, and then maybe we can fix it. So even that shame has a kind of protective value. Really? Because it makes us at least think that there's something we can do. Ah, it gives us hope in a weird way. It gives us hope in a weird way, yeah.