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Just being friends with dudes, and I mean like at all stages of life, like there's sometimes you're like, oh this dude seems like a good dude, right? And then right away he's like, I like rock climbing. And right away your insides, you're like, yeah, that's a nice guy, but... It's like I happen. Right? Like that's his like favorite thing, he's like, oh, we're going on a rock climb Friday, and we're going on a rock climb Monday, and you're like... Nah, bro. Yeah. And then he plays his music, and you're like, he's like, can you believe that Jimmy Buffett's coming to town? Oh my God, Margaritaville. And you're like, you know, you're a nice guy, and I'll always like say, how you doing? But like, we're not gonna be friends. You're a rock climbing Jimmy Buffett fan. Yeah. Like it's just, where's our friendship gonna be? Even my oldest friends, like Jenny and Shawna, that I've had since I was 13 years old, we like the same music, we like the same art, we like the same movies, we like the same clothes, we like the same shit. That's so true. And then if you talk about dates, like when you go on dates, that's the thing, you find out like right away, you're sitting with someone, you can have a drink with someone, dinner with someone, and at the end of like an hour, you could be like, no, there's not a chance. Why? We don't have any similar interests. I mean, I get asked this a lot, like, what's the secret to finding a good partner? What do you tell them? I tell them that you should find somebody that you can sit in a cafe with for hours and talk to. That's what we do. You and I sit here for fucking hours and days, and that's marriage. And like, how do you handle stress? And do you share a vision of the future? Because if one of you is a low frequency slacker and one of you wants to write it hard and be a winner, good luck, dude. I think that's why you and I always worked, because we both shared a vision of what the future should look like.