Expressing Desire #drmindypelz

A few years ago, I went on a trip with another female friend. And I show up and we're like, oh, what do you want to do? And I'm fed up of just being like, oh, I don't know. What do you want to do? In that interaction, over time, like on the second day, she's like, well, you just say what you want. And I feel like I have to do it. And I was like, oh, no, me saying what I want doesn't mean that I'm diminishing what you want. Me saying what I want is hoping to give you the power to then say what you want so that we can then either come to a compromise or we just go our separate ways and then we join each other in the evening. But I don't want to diminish me saying what I want to make you comfortable. I'm just very open, especially when it's with a friend, to just discuss, let's just put it all on the table. Like, why am I triggering you? What have I said? And then maybe I need to look at my language that I use. And maybe I was being arrogant in this moment. Okay, well, next time I'm going to do better. I'm not perfect. And so I try to go in to be confident with myself, not diminish another woman, because I think that's where the cockiness comes, where people feel like you're diminishing them. In order to get confidence, I'm just trying to be myself. I'm trying to be respectful for the other person and then accept that absolutely your confidence may trigger somebody else. And that isn't on you. But what is on you is to assess whether their assessment of you is correct or not.