Replying to @InkandAshes how to heal after leaving a traumatic workplace. I could make a million of these videos #worktrauma #worktraumas #womenintheworkplace #womenintheworkforce #vicepreseidentofmarketing #fyp

This comment about working for a toxic workplace and then being unemployed for seven months because you're terrified of walking back into a workplace and not trusting their culture is such a realistic thing. I wanted to talk about the ways that I healed after working for an incredibly traumatic workplace and hopefully this can help you guys in the process. While I was working there I journaled a lot, I went to therapy and that helped me kind of like live in the moment and be able to live in a day-to-day but once I quit I was able to kind of you know it's kind of like it all came crashing down or it was like oh my gosh I can't believe you just dealt with all of that for almost a year. So the biggest thing I did was I kind of like went back and focused on re-educating myself. Again this is a privilege that costs money. I took a course by the CMO of Google. I really look up to her and it was a director of marketing course and you know it was really expensive and honestly I knew everything so you know maybe do Coursera and I went into kind of like relearning or trying to learn a new skill that was a part of my job through like cheaper courses outside of like that director of marketing course and just trying to get that validation that I actually did know what I was doing because I yeah. The second thing is to not gaslight yourself like don't gaslight yourself. Your feelings are valid because you feel them. I do not argue with people's feelings. I'm not going to tell you that you cannot feel a certain way. We can perceive a situation or outcome very differently but how you feel is how you feel. So when you tell yourself that you really felt uncomfortable in that situation but maybe it's your fault because X Y & Z no you felt uncomfortable in that situation and my suggestion would be to journal about that and to respond in the way as if a friend was telling you that. If some friend said I went to work and I was put in a really uncomfortable situation a friend would say wow I'm really sorry that happened to you and it would just be validation and try to give yourself that validation and don't gaslight yourself. What you went through is what you went through and that is how you feel and there's validation in how you feel. The third thing I did was I started figuring out how I could live without a very fancy high-paying corporate job. Again I am single I don't have kids okay I am my own dependent outside of my dog that I love so much. So I set my life is very set up is set up differently but I looked through all of my expenses and I really dove deep into the FIRE concept it's about financial freedom and early retirement. I've been investing my money since I was 24 so I kind of knew a little bit about investing but a couple things that I do is I have a high-yield savings account and there's kind of this like graph that I think of where it trickles down so as a 1099 and I was a 1099 for actually most of my life I don't have I actually have more money in IRAs than 401ks so I lean heavy on my IRAs for the same kind of like how people in W-2 jobs their whole life use 401ks. So I would look into opening an IRA that's compounding interest. I would look into opening a high-yield savings account when you're keeping your money in your savings account it's getting 0.001% return an average high-yield savings account gets 4.5% return. I normally will make I don't know 75 to 100 dollars a month off of it that I just put back into the savings account but again it's just another form of revenue that I'm like trying to create. Outside of the high-yield savings accounts because I'm going least risky to most risky IRA it's a retirement account you can't touch it so least risky high-yield savings account least risky then I will look into like index funds or the S&P 500 and the way that I want you to think about those is looking up the annual return rate again I am NOT a financial advisor okay I just want to caveat this this is just how I help set myself up. So the S&P 500 I think the the annual rate of return was between eight to nine percent and the Vanguard index funds the annual rate of return is around ten percent on average so then again you trickle your money down you say okay cool I have this much budget I'm gonna put in here and I have this much budget I'm gonna put in here and really I just have a lot of my money all diversified so that in the average I'm you know able to average it out make money. The biggest thing I would suggest is getting a high-yield savings account and figuring out what your spend amount is and how you could lessen that if you did want to walk away from something that was very high stress corporate things like that. I'll do another video on how I started freelancing it to be honest it was all connections but if I can help any of you I have a lot of connections in the marketing space I have a lot of connections in general I will give you a shout out on LinkedIn let me know how I can help you I know LinkedIn is a little bit challenging if you're like secretly trying to leave your job but in any regard I would love to help you guys my messages are open you guys can message me