I never expected that writing a book about my past… would bring me closer to my daughters. It started as a personal mission. To tell the raw truth… from an abusive childhood and being abandoned… to a life of crime, prison, and eventually, redemption through coaching, mentoring, and relentless self-work. It was raw. It was humbling. But it was mine to own. What I didn’t anticipate… was how deeply it would impact my daughters. They read my book. And for the first time, they saw it all… my flaws, my regrets, my pain… but more importantly, my effort. They didn’t see a “perfect dad.” They saw a man who fought every day for two decades to break the cycles of poverty, abandonment, and abuse. They saw the cost of transformation. They saw the effort it takes to grow. And they saw the why behind the way we raised them. Together with Cambria, we’ve shown them that perfection was never the goal. But becoming your best self is the best journey one can take. We’ve talked openly about our wounds. Where they came from. Why our parents, and their parents, passed them down. And how it’s our job now to stop the bleeding. There’s a quote in the video I’m posting with this: “When you can look at your parents not as ‘mom and dad,’ but as two wounded children doing their best… you arrive at compassion, understanding, and forgiveness. And that is the beginning of your healing.” That’s what this journey is about. Owning your story. Facing the hard stuff. Doing the work. And then sharing what you’ve learned. Because someone out there needs your story as a survival map for their own. If you’re in the work… I see you. If you’ve fallen short… I’ve been there. If you’re still angry at your parents… I understand. But, healing starts when we stop demanding they become something they never learned to be… And instead, decide to become it ourselves. That’s how we break the cycle. 👉 Follow for more content like this. And if you’re ready to do your work, I wrote my book for you. #RobertHenryCoaching #UnleashingYourOwnPotential #HavenRealEstateGroup #ShareYourStory #KeepGoing #BreakTheCycle #GenerationalHealing #FatherhoodJourney #DoingTheWork #HealingIsPossible #SelfLeadership #PrisonToPurpose #RealGrowth #LegacyBuilding #MenWhoDoTheWork #PersonalTransformation #GrowthMindset

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When you can look at your parents, not as your parents, but as little wounded children, who were two wounded children who grew up, met each other, thought that each other would heal each other's wounds, did not know that they couldn't, then projected each other's wounds onto each other and had children, then projected their wounds onto each other and onto their children, did the best they could with the blindness that they were in and the dysfunction they were in. If you can get to that point where they are not mum and dad anymore, but just two wounded children, you get to that compassion, that understanding and that forgiveness, you get to that, then you face yourself and do the work on your unmet needs instead of resenting them for then and demanding something from them now. You get to that point when you have severely elevated from the place and space you were before as a wounded child, still crying to what you call mummy and daddy, that's your greatest journey and the beginning of the spiritual journey.

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