What’s your tantrum hack? 👇

This is how you short-circuit a tantrum, just end it. And it has to do with understanding how kids' brains work, especially toddlers, which is what I study and what I talk about. So we're out in public, we're at a restaurant, my three-year-old starts throwing this huge tantrum yesterday. I pick him up, I put him in my arms, I immediately start playing the color game. Before I explain how the color game works, this is what you need to know. Brains, they can't do everything at once. They can't be in thinking mode and tantrum mode at the same time. This is why it's pointless to try and reason. You are arguing with a lizard, like they cannot reason with you. But there are things you can do, brain hacks, to put the thinking brain back in the driver's seat, which will therefore end the tantrum. Again, because brains can't do two things at once. And there are a lot of these, but I'm going to give you my favorite. It's the color game, and all you do is look for colors. Oh, where's something red? We got to find something red. Oh, where's yellow? Yellow's next. You just go through all of the colors. You see, the part of their brain that identifies colors and assigns a name to those colors is not the part of their brain that throws tantrums. This means that when they start playing the color game, the part of their brain that's throwing the tantrum will shut the hell up and allow you to talk to the part of their brain that can tell you why they're disappointed and fix the problem. Oh, John, my kid would never do that. They would just resist. They'd be like, no, no, no. Yeah, just start naming the wrong color for things. Let's see how long they can hold up. That apple over there is blue. They won't resist that opportunity to tell you how wrong you are. Just parent smarter, not harder.